Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Prostitution, pornography, and gay sex - the jury is out

Somnath Bharti is facing cases and criticism from political opponents for a midnight raid against some African women in south Delhi.

Trying to find nuance in the Khirki Extension raid BY VIDYUT JANUARY 24, 2014 POLITICS & POLITICAL COMMENTARY The story, as many media superhits are, is polarized.

Internet Service Providers (ISPs) on Monday asked the Supreme Court to define pornography and wondered whether the erotic sculptures at ...

Under the SC rules, advocates cannot argue review petitions unless ordered by the court. Rejecting the petitioners' plea to hold a hearing of ...

Unusual places netas love to visit Times of India - Jan 30, 2014 NEW DELHI: What is the mystery behind the frequent official trips of certain top politicians and bureaucrats to some unusual destinations? The author also wonders why George Fernandes visited Siachen at least 18 times - "some newspapers referred to 32 visits" — during his ... 

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Makarand Paranjape’s Body Offering

A man-woman relationship is as complex as it can get. It’s an equation where there are too many variables like sex, love, marriage that never balance each other. Few other external variables make it even more complex like age, social norms and perceived notion of expectations and hypocrisy to settle for much lesser in life.

Some say it’s much easier to decipher the code of entire universe than to really decipher a man-woman relationship. Makarand Paranjape’s Body Offering deals with one such emotion. It is a riveting novel about the persistence of a complex relationship and the essence of what it means to be human.

The author opens the book of love and shows how to read relationships in a whole new light. What is it that draws us so strongly to some people and repels’ us from others? What makes some work so smoothly while others burst into flames? Paranjape gives new answers to these questions by showing that the kind of relationship we create depends on the kind of love stories we carry inside us. In this contemporary, urban love story set in Delhi, Sunayana, a young, vivacious editor at a leading publishing house, finds herself drawn into a disorienting but compelling liaison with Ashok, a reserved but well-known middle-aged surgeon. She seeks a centre that has eluded her scattered self, while he struggles to come to terms with a broken marriage.

The uneasy attraction between this odd couple triggers profound questions. What is the quintessence of human coupling – desire, fear, need, or just habit? Is love a hormonal reflex or a romantic fantasy? Can carnal passion reveal deeper realities? Both embark on a passionate journey, leading to fresh discoveries and unchartered longings. But both have to push the boundaries to see how far they can go to be with each other. The book is a layered, erotic tale, suffused with intense emotions, leading up to a poignant, unforeseen climax. 

The strong points of the book are many: an interesting read; excellent writing; and a true desire, on the part of the author, to communicate with the reader. The weak points are a wealth of concepts and ideas, tossed about liberally. There are so many, that the reader might just lose track, and actually lose sight of the initial idea behind the book.
Bottom line: Not a bad way to waste an afternoon. 1 June 2013, Neha Jain [Author: Makarand Paranjape Publisher: Rupa Price: Rs.395] The book is an erotic tale, suffused with intense emotions, leading up to a poignant, unforeseen climax.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Vivekananda uses the word involution exactly how it appears in Theosophy

Readings in Sri Aurobindo's the Life Divine: Covering Book Two, ... - Page 290 - Santosh Krinsky - 2012 - Preview - More editions Sri Aurobindo uses the example of electricity in the form of lightning to illustrate this point. ... and factor. evolution is an inverse action of the involution: what is an ultimate and last derivation in the involution is the first to appear in the evolution; ...
Evolutionary, Spiritual Conceptions of Life - Sri Aurobindo, ... - Page 35 - Michael Leicht - 2008 - Preview According to Aurobindo the Super-Mind plays a vital role in linking the physical with the spiritual (transmitted by the overmind). Aurobindo in dealing with the ascent of matter and the descent of god (as evolution and involution) dwells upon...
The Essential Aurobindo - Preview For Aurobindo, a proper understanding of evolution—i.e., that space and time, the universe, is possible because of a prior involution (involvement) of Spirit—is the foundation stone of his entire teaching. He also emphasizes, however, ...
The Integral Advaitism of Sri Aurobindo - Page 285 Rāmacandra Miśra - 1998 - Preview Mind is the manifestation or the result of the self-concentration or the self-modification of the ... There are, according to Sri Aurobindo, four ways in which man becomes aware of his own existence as well as that of the ...
Neoplatonism and Indian Thought - Page 265 - R. Baine Harris - 1982 - Preview - More editions Thus what Plotinus calls emanation has some resemblance with Sri Aurobindo's concept of involution. But emanation is directly involved in creation, while involution is a pre-condition of evolution which is involved in creation. Both Plotinus and ...
Penguin Sri Aurobindo Reader - Page 260 - ParanjapeMakarand - Preview - More editions ... story of each evolutionary emergence: the principle of its highest perfection lies concealed in the involution which precedes and ... Each gradation contains the possibility and the certainty of
The philosophy of Sri Aurobindo: his idea of evolution - Page 21 - Joseph Veliyathil - 1972 - has the involution resulted in this universe and not in another one? Is there any element determining the process of involution? Aurobindo was quite aware of these possible questions. He says that the delight in the Absolute is the answer to...
Sri Aurobindo and the Mother: Glimpses of Their Experiments, ... - Page 265 - Kireet Joshi - 1989 - Preview - More editions For behind our conscious physical, vital and mental operations there is, according to Sri Aurobindo, a deeper and ... of communication with the worlds of being which the descent towards involution created in its passage and
Sri Aurobindo: A Contemporary Reader Sachidananda Mohanty - 2012 - Preview - More editions Sri Aurobindo expounds his philosophy of Creative Evolution in a number of texts, primarily in his magnum opus—The Life Divine. He suggests that Evolution as a concept cannot be understood without the parallel theory of Involution.
The philosophy of evolution in Sri Aurobindo and Teilhard de Chardin - Page 108 Jan Feys - 1973 - We can now dispel the ambiguity: the fundamental law of evolution is summed up in one word, both by Aurobindo and Teilhard: 'involution'. But with totally different meanings. What Aurobindo means by involution is that the Absolute, before ...
Understanding Medical Physiology - Page 876 - Bijlani - 2004 - Preview - More editions Swami Vivekananda and Sri Aurobindo have made powerful pleas in the recent past for correcting this ... The Supreme Consciousness underwent an enormous involution when it manifested as inconscient matter. In the course of time, matter...
Handbook of Religion and the Authority of Science - Page 335 Jim R. Lewis, Olav Hammer - 2010 - Preview This brings us to the second assumption that underlies Vivekananda's evolutionism, namely, involution. Vivekananda uses the word involution exactly how it appears in Theosophy: the descent, or the involvement, of divine consciousness into ...
Encyclopaedia of Literature in English - Page 1146 - M K Bhatnagar - 2001 - Preview - More editions From the assumption that every evolution presupposes involution, Vivekananda suggested that the Cosmic Intelligence or the Lord of Creation, involves itself in the process of evolution, manifests and evolves itself until it becomes a perfect ...
Selected Doctrines from Indian Philosophy - Page 48 - V. Ramakrishna RaoVet Ury Ramakrishna Rao - 1987 - Preview The Panchakosa represent the involution of Brahman while Alexander's scheme represents the evolution of space, time and matter. Swami Vivekananda says : "Every evolution is preceeded by an involution... The whole series of evolution ...
Sri Aurobindo and the theories of evolution: a critical and ... - Page 71 Rama Shanker Srivastava - 1968 - Involution is a process of creation of the cosmos and evolution is its successive 1. The Life Divine. Book.II, Pt. II. pp. 628-29. Reprinted 1949, New York, The Sri Aurobindo Library Inc. 2. Ibid pp. 734-35. process of Divinisation. Here it is important ...
The Spectrum Of Consciousness - Page xix - Ken Wilber - 2002 - Preview - More editions In subsequent writings, I reverted to the other usage, following Aurobindo: involution is the move away from Spirit, getting lost and involved in maya, and evolution is the growth back to Spirit as Spirit, whereupon it is seen that all of maya is ...
A critical study of Aurobindo: with special reference to his ... - Page 94 - Laxman Ganpatrao Chincholkar - 1966 - That which evolves must be implicitly involved. Thus observed, involution and evolution constitute two terms of material existence. 2 The order of the ... 73. are, as Aurobindo remarks, the double terms of our existence. 2. L. D. pp. 811, 812. 3.
Columbia companion to 20th-century philosophies - Page 651 - Constantin V. Boundas - 2007 - Preview - More editions Like Vivekananda, Aurobindo accepts the monistic premise: evolution which leads to an eventual development beyond the Mind can occur because the 'infinite Spirit' lies hidden - 'involuted' in material nature. In fact Aurobindo describes ...
The integral philosophy of Sri Aurobindo: a commemorative symposium - Page 136 - Haridas ChaudhuriFrederic Spiegelberg - 1960 - Involution of Saccidananda precedes Its manifestation. The act of involution is graded descent from Saccidananda to supermind, overmind, intuition, illumined mind, higher mind, mind, soul, life and finally to matter. As Sri Aurobindo remarks:...
The meeting of the East and the West in Sri Aurobindo's philosophy - Page 98S.K. Maitra - 1956 - Just as in involution the Spirit projects itself out of itself, so in evolution it comes back to itself. It comes back to itself in the reverse way to that in which it went out of itself in involution. The former process Sri Aurobindo also calls Ascent and the... Studies in Sri Aurobindo's philosophy - Page 29S.K. Maitra - 1945
Pschology of the Future: Lessons from Modern Consciousness Research - Page 282 - Stanislav Grof - 2000 - Preview - More editions In the East, similar concepts found their most articulate expression in the writings of the Indian mystic and philosopher Sri Aurobindo under the names of involution and evolution of consciousness (Aurobindo 1965). Modern discussion of the ...
Towards eternity; Sri Aurobindo birth centenary volume, 15th ... - Page 228 - Aurobindo GhoseV. Madhusudan Reddy - 1973 - Evolution reproduces in the reverse order the process of the descent of the spirit in involution. The order of involution is sketched thus by Sri Aurobindo. "Existence, Consciousness- Force, Bliss, Super- mind, Mind, Psyche (or Soul), Life, ...
Karma and Rebirth: Post Classical Developments - Page 30 - Ronald Wesley Neufeldt - 1986 - Preview - More editions Aurobindo's letters to his disciples discuss some other possibiliites, though this is the normal course. ... Since the whole of evolution is the Spirit's free becoming, experiencing freely the involution and evolution of the many possibilities of the ...
Psychotherapy and Spirit: Theory and Practice in Transpersonal ... - Page 71 - Brant Cortright - 1997 - Preview - More editions Overview of the Spectrum Model Wilber's model began with Sri Aurobindo's idea, first articulated in 1915, that cosmic evolution began first with an involution by the Divine into the creation of matter and then proceeded to unfold along an ...
Contemporary Indian idealism (with special reference to Swami ... - Page 179 - Ripusudan Prasad Srivastava - 1973 - He does not. however, work out the details of involution. In Radhakrishnan also we find a reference to this involution, biut there, too, a full account of it is wanting. It is in the philolosophy of Sri Aurobindo that one gets a full-length treatment of ...
Foundations of Indian Psychology Volume 1: Theories and Concepts - Page 184 - Cornelissen R. M. Matthijs - 2011 - Preview ... As noted above, the story of existence began with the involution of the supreme superconscience in and as gross matter. ... repeated or disguised in strange forms can surge up into dream or into the waking nature' (Sri Aurobindo, 1970a, p.
Realization of God according to Sri Aurobindo: a study of a ... - Page 39 - George Nedumpalakunnel - 1979 - INVOLUTION OR DESCENT OF THE DIVINE Basing himself on the theory of emanation explained as self-extension or self-diffusion of the Divine, Aurobindo maintains that the creative self-diffusion of Saccidananda down the scale of ...
Sri Aurobindo and Vedānta philosophy - Page 81 - Sheojee Pandey - 1987 - Aurobindo. In the process of creation everywhere involution conditions evolution. The evolution of matter takes place owing to the fact that the spirit involves into matter. Matter possessed of spirit emerges into the higher grade of reality.
Sri Aurobindo: or, The adventure of consciousness - Page 301 - Satprem - 1968 - This is what Sri Aurobindo calls "the involution": The nescience of Matter is a veiled, an involved or somnambulist consciousness which contains all the latent powers of the Spirit. In every particle, atom, molecule, cell of Matter there lives ...
Science, Spirituality And The Modernization Of India - Page 106 -Makarand Paranjape - 2008 - Preview But, in the terminology introduced by Vivekananda and developed by Aurobindo, this is a process of 'involution'. Aurobindo insists that at each stage in evolution the previous stages are not left behind but taken up (Killingley, p.195–6).
Page 122 In his magnum opus, The Life Divine (Aurobindo, 1990), Aurobindo presents descriptions of cosmic involution and evolution, combining Eastern and Western elements with his own experience and insights. In the Involution–Creation, the ...
The Yoga of Patanjali and the Integral Yoga of Sri Aurobindo - Page 79 - G. M. L. Shrivastava - 1987 - Sri Aurobindo writes, "The manifestation of the Being in our universe takes the shape of an involution which is the starting-point of evolution, Matter the neither- most stage, Spirit the summit. In the descent into involution there can be ...
Knowledge, Consciousness and Religious Conversion in Lonergan and ... - Page 260 - Michael T. McLaughlin - 2003 - Preview CONVERSION IN LONERGAN AND AUROBINDO On the other hand, because our actions are actions of a being already in union with the divine, anything we do can only be a movement within the greater evolution and involution of the Divine ...
Sri Aurobindo and Karl Marx: Integral Sociology and Dialectical ... - Page 32 - Debi Prasad Chattopadhyaya - 1988 - Preview The scientific account of evolution is discounted by Sri Aurobindo mainly on two scores. First, it fails to explain how evolution is different from involution; and, secondly, how specific (or in species) variation leads to the emergence of a superior...
Sri Aurobindo and Iqbal: a comparative study of their philosophy - Page 112 - M. Rafique - 1974 - To sum up in Sri Aurobindo's own words : "Involution of a superconscient spirit in inconscient Matter is the secret of this visible ... Sri Aurobindo's contention is that without the prior fact of involution, we cannot, consistently, justify the fact of...
The Lives of Sri Aurobindo - Page 274 - Peter Heehs - 2008 - Preview - More editions In answering, Aurobindo reminds us that it is brahman itself that has become each individual being. ... he turns to its psychological conditions. He has traced the origin of the cosmic ignorance (avidya) to the involution of the divine in matter.
Perspectives on Sri Aurobindo's Poetry, Plays, and Criticism - Page 130 - Amrita Paresh Patel, Jaydipsinh Dodiya - 2002 - Full view - More editions The mind is thus the concentrated form of 'chit' in the process of involution. It is the mind which aspires for the "adventures of consciousness". In conclusion, it is safe to say that Sri Aurobindo has formulated Poetics in the light of Sanskrit poetry ...
Encyclopaedia of Eminent Thinkers: The political thought of Aurobindo - Page 54 - K. S. Bharathi - 1998 - Preview ... but believes in the teleological involution and evolution in the world of the transcendent-universal spiritual absolute. Aurobindo says that absolute freedom, even when within the bounds of the mortal frame, can be won if one makes a ...
An introduction to Sri Aurobindo's philosophy - Page 88 - Joan Price Ockham - 1977 - Chapter Five INVOLUTION AND IGNORANCE Throughout his philosophical magnum opus, The Life Divine, Sri Aurobindo argues for the necessity of the involution of the higher principles of unity to account for the evolution of the lower world ...
Sri Aurobindo and Jung: a comparative study in Yoga and depth ... - Page 63 - Satya Prakash Singh - 1986 - ... the supreme creative power of Saccidananda. It is that power which is responsible for the whole process of involution of Saccidananda and evolution of the world. ... Sri Aurobindo, Centenary Edition Vol. XXV. pp. 94— 5. Mother is capable of ... Nature Of God - Satya Prakash Singh - Preview
Integral Education: thought & Practical - Page 133 - R.N. Pani - Preview - More editions Evolution is the reverse movement of involution. Sri Aurobindo writes : "Evolution is an inverse action of the involution : what is an ultimate and last derivation in theinvolution is the first to appear in the evolution, what was original and primal in ...
Integral psychology: the psychological system of Sri Aurobindo (in ... - Indra Sen - 1986 - A greater psychology: an introduction to Sri Aurobindo's ... - Aurobindo GhoseA. S. Dalal - 2001 - Provides an overview of the psychological thought of the Indian philospher which includes body, mind, soul, and spirit. The Hidden Heart of the Cosmos: Humanity and the New Story - Brian Swimme - 1999 - Opens up not only the exhilarating truths that science reveals of the birth of the universe, but how these truths can transform our lives.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Hormonal urges to which all men are susceptible

Psychoanalytic Views of Mental Health from An und für sich by Jeremy
Recently Nancy McWilliams, a prominent American analyst, presented at my graduate program. Here’s her list of mental health. Let me know what you think.
Signs of Mental Health based on McWilliams’ Presentation at GWU (March 2012):
1) Capacity to Love (Freud)
2) Capacity to Work (Freud)
3) Capacity to Play (Winnicott)
4) Secure Attachment (Bowlby)
5) Sense of Agency/Autonomy (Erikson)
6) Self Constancy/Identity Integration (Stern)
7) Object Constancy (Stern)
8) Ego Strengths (Westen/Shedler)
9) Realistic/Reliable Self-esteem (Kohut)
10) Sense of Values (Superego) (Cleckley)
11) Affect/Thought Tolerance/Frustration (Tomkins)
12) Insight (Reality Testing) (Fenichel)
13) Mentalization (Reflective Functioning) (Fonagy)
14) Good Coping Strategies/Defensive Flexibility (A Freud)
15) Balance between Self-Definition & Self-in-Relationships (Balint)
16) Passion/Vitality/Purpose (Winnicott)
17) Acceptance & Capacity to Mourn/Suffer (Klein)
Notice, the absence of sex and aggression!

Yet, the karmic deeds of a past when kundalini forces—and the hormonal urges to which all men are susceptible—played havoc with a spiritual practice aren’t proving so easy to bury.

In everyday life, people frequently engage in pseudo-interactions with women (e.g., through the phone or the internet) or anticipate interacting with a woman later on. The goal of the present research was to investigate if men's ...

What the theory and the empirical results are saying is that people exposed to a higher risk of sexual harassment are paid more, just as people exposed to a higher risk of death are paid more… Nevertheless, the principle here is clear, the way to think about these issues is not to throw out economic reasoning but to apply the reasoning ever more deeply.

I argued in The Democracy of Objects that it’s actually the masculine side of the graph of sexuation that’s semblance, masquerade, and fiction 

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Friday, March 16, 2012

Creative people easily rationalize their dishonest behavior

Study finds men suffer mental decline when around, or even just thinking about women. Same doesn't hold true for females, researchers say Comments (30) BY RHEANA MURRAY NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Tuesday, March 13, 2012 Seen in movies like "The 40 Year-Old Virgin," sometimes men don't know what to say in the presence of a woman.
Men just can’t think straight when women are around. Researchers are studying how males can actually experience a mental decline when interacting with women, Scientific American magazine reported. A study from Radboud University Nijmegen in the Netherlands showed that while heterosexual men’s cognitive performance was impaired when they were around someone from the opposite sex, the same didn’t hold true for women. Just the anticipation of interacting with a woman could impair mental performance, according to the study, first published online last November.
Researchers compared the findings to a scene in Tolstoy’s novel “Anna Karenina,” in which a male character, Levi, becomes so nervous trying to think of something to tell a woman, Kitty, that he doesn’t recognize a friend who walks by the pond where they’re standing. Such temporary lapses in memory or mindfulness are more common “if the woman is attractive and men report trying to impress her,” according to the study’s authors. And they happen in real life, too…
Men who were told a woman would be watching them performed worse on subsequent tests of cognitive ability, even when there was no actual face-to-face contact with a woman. Women showed no change.
Researchers suggest the findings could be attributed to “evolutionary pressures” that have shaped men to be more likely to sexualize otherwise neutral situations, but say further study is necessary. rmurray@nydailynews.com

Creative people more dishonest, Harvard study finds - Daily Dose 2 Dec 2011 – By Deborah Kotz, Globe Staff - But are creative types more likely to lie, cheat, and steal?
“There’s been a lot of anecdotal evidence linking creativity with dishonesty, but without much empirical evidence,” said Francesca Gino, an associate professor of business administration at Harvard Business School. She decided to conduct a series of experiments with several hundred college students to determine whether creativity and intelligence play a role in lowering ethical standards when it comes to making money. The findings were published in the recent issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
“When you’re a creative person, you can use that creativity to come up with reasons for why unethical behaviors may be okay,” said Gino. “Crossing ethical boundaries may not be as problematic.”
Interestingly, all of the study participants wanted to maintain a positive view of themselves: In anonymous surveys, nobody admitted being a cheater, and all considered cheating to be wrong. But when faced with ethical dilemmas where they weighed self-interest against the desire to maintain their high self-image, the creative participants were better able to rationalize their dishonest behavior, so they could still see themselves as honest human beings.
They figure what’s the harm in cheating, just a little? “One might reason that other people would cheat under the same circumstances or that a little cheating will not hurt anyone,” wrote Gino in the paper.
Other research suggests we all start to self-rationalize more when we’re in a creative mindset -- looking for ways to lower our tax bill, for example, or coming up with a new idea for an advertising campaign. “Anyone who’s thinking creatively at [the] moment, may be more likely to engage in unethical behavior,” Gino told me.
Of course, we shouldn’t try to avoid being creative, but we may want to be a little more self-aware. “Knowing that creativity can have this side effect,” Gino said, “should make us stop and think more carefully when we’re faced with an ethical decision.” Deborah Kotz can be reached at dkotz@globe.com

People from privileged, wealthy backgrounds are more likely to be dishonest and unethical than their poorer counterparts, a study has found. Wealthy more likely to lie, cheat: Study - Indian Express Washington, Tue Feb 28 2012
They may be the more respectable and upstanding members of society, but the rich are also more likely to lie, cheat and engage in other kinds of unethical activities than those in lower classes, claims a new study. But these findings, published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, do not mean that everyone of high status behaves unethically, nor that everyone in lower society behaves ethically, scientists cautioned. 'Wealthy class more likely to lie, cheat' - Times Of India
However, the researchers suggested that the rich's view of the world may be clouded by self-absorption and greed. As a result, they have fewer scruples than those who have less money to burn.

The fallacy of mood affiliation by Tyler Cowen on March 31, 2011 at 8:43 am in Philosophy Permalink Recently I wrote:
It seems to me that people are first choosing a mood or attitude, and then finding the disparate views which match to that mood and, to themselves, justifying those views by the mood.  I call this the “fallacy of mood affiliation” 
Let’s not count the poor from Kafila by Shivam Vij
As someone recently commented on a Kafila post, we live in a post-fact world where there are no facts. Everyone believes what they want to. 1:47 PM

We are all salespersons to different degrees, and use fallacies Why Politicians are Liars, Darrell Williams author's web site September 19, 2007
These are complex deceitful statements that are used to sell an idea by misleading claims. This is done by different individuals to different degrees for different purposes. Some are harmless but some are dangerous and illegal. There are over 166 different ways in which a person can use fallacies to deceive or mislead someone. 5:36 PM

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Neat People vs. Sloppy People":
Oh well, it is not so much her questionable sense of humour that bothers me here; it is not the fact that she is painting a very two-dimensional black and white picture either. It is that people relate to it: "Oh yes, everything in my life can be defined so simply. One line, two kinds of people." Seriously? I don't recognize any sloppy nor any neat people I know in this essay. Why not stick to the definition? (Oxford) neat: arranged in a tidy way; in good order. sloppy: careless and unsystematic; excessively casual.
I see nothing about waste or attachment to things here.
When you want to put people in boxes, the larger your boxes are, the more judgmental and wrong you get. And it doesn't get any funnier... Evergreen Essays at 7:15 PM, March 17, 2012

Thursday, March 08, 2012

Non-marriage based communities

Feminism and the Family – Thoughts on International Women’s Day from Kafila by Nivedita Menon MARCH 8, 2012 - Excerpts from my forthcoming book Seeing like a Feminist (Penguin India/Zubaan Books).
Women have to learn to remake themselves completely, but even more significant is the fact that the entire period of their lives before this singular event of marriage, is spent in anticipating and preparing for this specific future, from choice of career and job options to learning to be adaptable from early girlhood.
As a young girl said, ‘Whenever I ask my mother to have fun, go out, to wear interesting clothes, she says, ‘Now I am married, I can’t do that’. If marriage is the end of life, how can it also be the goal of life?’[7] […]
The family is an institution that rigidly enforces systems of inheritance and descent, and in this structure, individuals – sons, daughters, wives, husbands – are resources that are strictly bound by the violence, implicit and explicit, of this frame. We tend to take this frame for granted, and it becomes obscenely visible only in extraordinary circumstances.
As feminists we need to build up the capacity and strength of both women and men to live in ways in which marriage is voluntary, and to build alternate non-marriage based communities.

Modern society has certainly tweaked with the traditional model to a significant extent, relying primarily on the willingness of the mother to leave an abusive situation and take the kids with her. In extreme situations, the state itself will intervene to take the kids away from an abusive parent’s custody. Yet the primary strategy is to provide exit strategies for when things go wrong. And of course conservatives are constantly fighting to make those exit strategies more difficult — and to cut off the means to avoid becoming entrapped in bad situations in the first place (i.e., birth control and abortion).
This is where gay marriage is absolutely necessary: at its best, it provides a model for a voluntary union of equals. Unless we’re going to go the full Republic route, it seems that more or less autonomous households are here to stay — and so we might as well have them forming without all the baggage of patriarchal presuppositions. This is the good way that gay marriage challenges the traditional family: by pushing it further in the direction of being a realm of love and affinity rather than a regime of property.
Obviously this isn’t a magic-bullet solution, because gay marriage and the changed marriage norms it can hopefully bring with it do not lead automatically to a utopia in which everyone is good and responsible. Yet the patriarchal model is practically begging the father to abuse his power, and so moving away from it can only be good.
Thus I would say that straight people would do well to make their marriages a little more gay.

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 Auroville Radio Newsletter Editor's Notes Dear readers,
There is much hustle-bustle here in Auroville these days with new developments as well as the Bulgarian celebrations in the International zone. And with International Women’s Day just around the corner, you can imagine the excitement as women take the lead in History, Literature, Cinema, Dance and a lot more! 

How many Ashrams have we imagined where the inmates, some unmarried, especially women, expose their lower bottom on the body by wearing shorts and go out on the streets, even to the markets? How many traditional Indian ashrams serve non-vegetarian food to their inmates? This is a reality in the Sri Aurobindo Ashram and a big attack by some fundamental groups who are plotting a planned and systematic attack to the very essence and existence of its survival. This is the nature of attack… Manas 12:33 PM from: Narayan T Rao narayan.t.rao@gmail.com date: 6 March 2012

'लिव इन रिलेशनशिप' को स्वीकार करें: टीम अन्ना दैनिक भास्कर गाजियाबाद. टीम अन्ना 'लिव इन रिलेशनशिप' के समर्थन में आगे आई है। टीम के सदस्य और पूर्व केंद्रीय मंत्री शांति भूषण ने कहा है कि लोगों को बदलते समाज के सच के साथ इसे स्वीकार कर लेना चाहिए। भूषण के मुताबिक लिव इन रिलेशनशिप का विरोध नहीं होना चाहिए। 
गाजियाबाद में एक कार्यक्रम के दौरान मीडिया से बातचीत में शांति भूषण ने कहा, 'सामाजिक मूल्य बड़ी तेजी से बदल रहे हैं और हमें इसे स्वीकार करना चाहिए।' विधानसभा चुनाव के बारे में शांति भूषण ने कहा कि अन्ना फैक्टर ने अपना असर दिखाया है और चुनावी नतीजों को देखने से यह बात साफ हो जाती है। (12/03/12) 

Live-in fallout of materialistic western culture: RSS Ramu Bhagwat, TNN Mar 17, 2012 Times of India - NAGPUR:
The Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS) has made it clear that it could never approve of the recent vogue of live-in-relationships. Reacting to events organized in Nagpur and Gujarat by lonely senior citizens to find live-in partners, RSS joint general secretary Dattatreya Hosabale said that it was a fallout of materialistic western culture and such an act cannot be encouraged.
Hosabale was speaking to reporters on the sidelines of the three-day Akhil Bharatiya Pratinidhi Sabha which began here on Friday. The remark coming from him became all the more important as he is being billed to succeed Mohan Bhagwat as next 'sarsanghachalak' (RSS chief) few years down the line. Hosabale said over the last one year the RSS has conducted camps to spread the message about importance of strengthening the institution of family.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Oedipus complex may not apply to other cultures

True. You might be aware of American psychologist Alan Roland’s book “In Search of Self in India and Japan“, in which he examine cultural differences between Indian, Japanese and American cultures. He observes that Western psycho-analytic models such as the Oedipus complex may not apply to other cultures. One Japanese psychologist defined other variations which were more prevalent in his culture.

MacIntyre, in the 30 years since his famous After Virtue, has been telling us a story of regret and decline – one focused largely on ethics, but ethics broadly defined. In After Virtue, MacIntyre described the Enlightenment project of “justifying morality” as performed most famously by Kant and Mill, but also more recent analytic figures like Alan Gewirth. And he argues that this project has not only failed, but had to fail. “Morality”, in this sort of modern context, nearly always stands opposed primarily to “self-interest”.

But I do have concerns about women in front-line combat, I think that could be a very compromising situation, where people naturally may do things that may not be in the interest of the mission, because of other types of emotions that are involved," Santorum continued. "It already happens, of course, with the camaraderie of men in combat, but I think it would be even more unique if women were in combat, and I think that's probably not in the best interest of men, women or the mission. [Women are more afraid]